This week in class we had the chance to learn about the processes of divorce. I've learned that there are 6 types of divorces. The first type is emotional divorce. In emotional divorce couples seem to lose trust in each other, they stop reaching out, and are self contained. The next type is legal divorce, in which the couple's issue is taken to the court. Then we have economic divorce. In economic divorce there is a division of property and resources. Community divorce is one of the hardest types because it involves friendships. This type makes family members and friends pick sides. The last type of divorce is psycho divorce which just means that you are no longer part of each others lives. Learning all of this week made really feel sad for people that experience divorce. Divorce is something that should be taken lightly. I believe that divorce should be a last option. As a future parent I have I to always try to have a good relationship with my husband. I believe that if couples try their hardest to work through their issues and communicate with each other, the thought of divorce can become extinct in their life. Life is not going to be easy, and there will probably be a lot of trials that I will go through with my husband but I believe that if we trust in the Lord and put our part in strengthening our relationship we will be able to have joy and happiness in this life.
This week in class we learned of some of the reasons why people might want to have children are the experience of happiness in a family, personal fulfillment, personal and family legacy. Although children can bring all of these factors, raising children can be stressful. I have been very blessed with loving and caring parents. Both my mother and father have taught me valuable lessons that I still apply in my life. From my parents I have learned not to give up on my dreams, my values and traditions. When I have my own family, I plan on having only 3 children. I believe the reason I want 3 is because my mother had three and I've seen how she was able to raise my siblings and I. I plan on being a parent because I feel that is what my calling in life is. Ever since I was little I have always wanted to be a mom. I know that the things I am learning in my family relations class is going to help me prepare to be that mom that I always wanted to be for my children.
This week in class I had the chance to learn about about the trends in female employment and how these trends male and female roles. Back in time people believed that men were programmed to work outside the home and women were programmed for being homemakers. In recent decades, the situation has changed dramatically. Some of the trends of women working are: women are gaining more independence, women roles are changing, and 6 out of 10 women aged 16 and above are in the work force. Although it's great that women are working more now, some people believe that working outside the home is far greater than just being a homemaker. People in our time think that because a mother stays home and doesn’t work outside the home, that she is intellectually vapid and wasting her college education. Since women have shifted from homemakers to being working women, it seems that women that work outside the home pride themselves on the fact that they are working women, that they are able to compete with men in the workforce. What people don’t realize is it that homemaking is more than just cleaning and cooking. Homemakers are people that work hard in order to create and foster a certain type of culture within the home. They devote their time to raising their children into well-mannered intellectual human beings. I believe that women can most definitely lead a first- class intellectual life while taking care of the kids, cleaning, and making dinners
This week in class we had the chance to learn about the importance of communication. One of the things I learned is that we need to focus on ourselves first before we are able to have good communication. Some tips in order to have good communication are:
1. start the conversation nicely ( not screaming or calling names) 2.if the conversation jumps into different topics try to refocus it to the main topic 3.it is important for the husband to give up some of their control Although these tips can help, it is crucial to be a good listener in order to communicate well with your partner. A communication skill that I found really interesting and that I would like to try in my life is being a empathic listener. An empathic listener is a person that is able to reflect back to the talker about what they were saying. In order to acquire this skill I need to focus 100% on what the talker is saying. I believe that if people focus more on working on improving their communication and listening skills they will be able to resolve problems with their partners easily. As a friend, daughter, sister, and This week in class we got the chance to learn about family crisis. I learned that although family crisis can be hard to handle and emotionally draining, it can help families get closer together. In my life i have seen this happen. One of the hardest crisis that my family had to go through was the time my aunt passed away from lung cancer. She had been battling cancer for about 5 year until her body wasn't able to take it anymore. We had never lost a loved one before, so it was very difficult for my family to deal with the fact that my aunt was really gone. Although we were sad and upset about the situation, I was able to notice my family getting closer. From this experience we realized that life is short, and that we should really appreciate each day and tell each other how much we care and love each other. My family is one of the greatest blessings I have in this life. I believe all the trials we have gone through helped us have a stronger bond as a family.
In our time there have been many divorces due to infidelty. During class this week I learned that there are some important walls that we can put up in order to avoid infidelity. This wise walls are:
• Resist the desire to rescue an unhappy soul who pours their heart out to you. • Don’t share the most painful things of your soul with an attractive alternative. This develops deep levels of intimacy. • If a conversation makes light of marriage, respond with something positive about your own marriage. • Discuss marital issues with your spouse. Work on the problems at home. If you do need to talk to someone else about your marriage, be sure they are a friend of the marriage. • Don’t have lunch or take work breaks with same person all the time. • When you travel with a co-worker, meet in the public rooms, not in a room with a bed. • If an old boyfriend or girlfriend is going to be at a class reunion, make sure you bring your spouse along. • If you value your marriage, don’t do lunch alone with an old flame. • Don’t try to be cute or “flirty”with anyone other than your spouse. • Do not allow your heart to dwell on anyone List of difficult
adjustments in marriage: -sharing -combining cultures (compromising on what rituals or traditions to keep) - forming their own family system -deciding on roles (money making, jobs) -establishing a pattern of resolving problems -decisions together -new experiences -social/friendship -drawing new boundaries In class last week we learned that many young adults don't really know the difference between datinng and hanging out. The 3 p's discussed by Elder Dallin H. Oaks described that a real date is :
1.Planned for 2. Paid for 3.Paired off These three important factors is what makes the difference. While talking about these three P's we were also able to connect them with the 3 P's found in The Family: A Proclamition to the World, which are: 1. Preside 2.Provide 3. Protect I was able to notice when comparing them to each other, that they totally correlate. Learning this has taught me how important a father's role truly is. By having the young men learn this at a young age, it will help them become better husbands and fathers in the future. In this week’s discussion in class, about gender roles,
I was able to make some connections with my family. I grew up in a Hispanic home where gender roles where taught to us since we were children. I grew up learning that it was my responsibility to help and take care of my younger sister and cousins, that it was important for me to have nurturing characteristics in order to be a good mom in the future. I was taught how to cook at the age of 10 and about the importance of having a clean home where the spirit can dwell. At the age of 15 my mother also taught me about being patient and caring with the elderly when we had to take care of my grandparents. My brother on the other hand was taught about the importance of being a protector and provider like my father. My brother supported the family by taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, working, and taking care of his sisters. Through this week’s readings and lesson from class, I realized how both my parent’s different gender roles helped built the strong-stable family that we are. I honestly never knew how important gender roles can be to a child, and now that I know that I feel that once I have my own children I will be more aware of what gender roles I teach my children. I believe that all cultures are valid, eventhough there are some things
that I might not understand about another culture. I believe that each culture has its own distinct but equally valid mode of perception, thought, and choice. They all have agency given from Heavenly Father. It is my opinion that we should not have the right to proclaim one set of values to be better than another. I think that all cultures have something good and important in them that we can learn from in order to better our lifes. "Preservation of one's own culture does not require contempt or disrespect for other cultures." |
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